Anyway, I was just having a girl moment. A little voice inside my head obsessing over my appearances and actions, telling me I'm fat, ugly, stupid. How could anyone ever want me? Luckily, I have awesome friends like Kendra to snap me out of it and silence that darn little voice, if only for a little while.
But I know before long, that little voice will rear its ugly little head again with all its criticisms bearing down on me, and I know I won't be able to call on Kendra to pull me out of it every time it returns (because, she has a life). Which is why I'm writing this, not only for myself, but also for others who need to hear the truth: that they are so much better than what that dumb little voice has to say.
- No matter what is going on in your life, no matter how much it feels like the end of the world - it's not. Fortunately, the world keeps spinning, the sun keeps setting and rising, life goes on. It may be hard, it may even change your life (it might not), but it will eventually end, and when it does - let it. Don't forget, but also don't let it consume your life to the point where you forget how to live.
- You may not have "society's" opinion of the prettiest face or the skinniest waist, but that doesn't define your beauty. Who are they to decide what's beautiful and what's not? To me, the most beautiful person in the room is the one with a smile on their face. The one who treats everyone decent, how people should be treated.
- There is someone out there for you. You might not find him/her tomorrow, the next day, or even a year from now, but don't give up - especially if you're still in high school. You have time. It'll happen when it is suppose to. It's okay to get jealous of your others with their boyfriends/girlfriends, but don't let it weigh you down. You'll have your time. Being single isn't the end of the world, you can get by just fine - spectacularly even - without an "in a relationship" Facebook status.
- Don't settle for anyone who treats you any less than you deserve. And believe me, what you deserve and what you think you deserve can be two completely different things. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are. Someone who will stand by you through the hard times. Someone who can make you laugh and comfort you when you need it. Someone you can have a good conversation with. Someone you feel safe with. Someone who doesn't hurt you (physically or emotionally). Someone who doesn't put you at 2nd place. Someone who knows they're lucky to have you, and reminds you of that every day.
- Forgiving yourself can be the hardest thing to do, but it's also the most important. People make mistakes, from there you have to move on. No matter how bad the situation may seem, at the end of the day, you're still human. Apologize where apologies are due, but after that there's not much else to be done - except to learn from it.
- Surround yourself with people you actually like. This is probably a no-brainer, but your friends should be people you enjoy being with. People who support you, laugh with you, and comfort you when you need it. If they don't do any of these things, you'll just end up being miserable.
- Go easy on your family. There will be fights, most petty, but you have to get past that, and realize they're all trying. You didn't choose them, and they didn't choose you, but for whatever reason, you're stuck with them. Better to get past all the pettiness and forgive than to burn the bridges that matter most.
- In a bad situation? Make it a good one. We all have to do things we don't want to, so you can either face it head on with a positive attitude, or spend the whole time complaining and miserable. Not every situation's going to be a gem, but take what you can from it while it's there, and you'll be a better person for it.
- "Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is you-er than you!" The dead on the other hand....Just kidding. Dr. Seuss knew what he was talking about when he wrote this. You have to embrace who you are. Don't hide your true self off from the world, because that'd just be a waste of an amazing person! You're you for a reason, like having an effect on certain people. . . . hopefully a positive one . . . .And if you're afraid of being called "weird", take it from me, you're probably a lot less "weird" than you think. Besides, to the ones that matter, your weirdness won't be an issue.
"Be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren't. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is only when you accept everything you are - and aren't - that you will truly succeed."
- Unknown
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